the other day I met a Berner friend, who had just visited her grandchildren. Visit is perhaps not quite the right word. Elisabeth had kept for two and a half weeks of the three children. Does you son regularly, and daughter-in-law are very involved professionally, and often on business trips. When you spend so much time with the grandchildren, you can notice already what. For example, that the children depend on the meals permanently on the Tablet and not eating properly, because they consume before and after constantly sweets. Exactly Elizabeth had just before their departure for son and son-in-law raised a daughter to be careful.
“I’ll do it never again,” she sighed. “My daughter-in-law was furious and refused to tolerate any interference in “their” family life. As if I wasn’t a part of the family. For some of is: to create, give, be silent.”
I winced inwardly. It sounded so sad and resigned. Unfortunately, even a grain of truth in it. I know some grandparents, who are somewhat frustrated because they have to be available at any time to, but otherwise stay out of the way to keep, especially education issues.
survey
are you a Mix as a Grand-mother or Grand-father in the upbringing of their grandchildren?
no, I think I’m out of there.
I’ve tried it already – but this is not well received.
Yes, I see it as my duty, me for the grandchildren to use. The adult children usually respond positively to my suggestions.
no, I think I’m out of there.
29.8%
I’ve tried it already – but this is not well received.
20.7%
Yes, I see it as my duty, me for the grandchildren to use. The adult children usually respond positively to my suggestions.
49.5%
188 votes
no, I think I’m out of there.
29.8%
I’ve tried it already – but this is not well received.
20.7%
Yes, I see it as my duty, me for the grandchildren to use. The adult children usually respond positively to my suggestions.
49.5%
188 votes
As a young mother, I was also sensitive. Only it is in my eyes a huge difference whether the grandchildren come in the afternoon once the Play is over, or whether grandparents take regularly and over a course of days, the sole responsibility for you. In this case, a respectful exchange should be, and that’s just about education issues. This is not least in the interest of the grandchildren.
studies by, among others, François Höpflinger, emeritiertem Professor at the center for gerontology, University of Zurich, make it clear that the relationship between grandchildren and grandparents created in a vacuum, but much depends on how adult children and their parents deal with each other. Since there is sometimes dissonance.
she has been writing for many years about family and education : Xenia Frenkel, 63, is a mother of four and grandmother of six grandchildren.
in Order to chat from my sewing box: If I hear that after 14 days of grandchildren, including household guard to bid farewell to my daughter: “Super, mommy, that you were there, you have done it Fun”, I am not peeved but slightly. Of course, it was Fun, very even. However, unlike in the case of the grandchildren, where I have the pleasure to be with you is more than enough gift, I expect my adult children for my use a little more recognition.
of Course, my daughter’s remark was not meant to be evil, nevertheless, you should appeal to his discomfort, so the things come back into balance and it is clear that grandparents are not a free Babysitter, and no ministering spirits, the shopping, cooking, washing, Ironing, cleaning, and otherwise remain invisible. They are part of the family – a Band that unites three generations, and they do a lot of that this Band holds.
We could as well grow good roses and our money to travel the world learning verbally.
grandparents give their love, their life time and also your money. Here is quick 500 francs for a new stroller, because there is a grant to purchase the house on a raised bed to build. From all my heart! But none of this is a matter of course. We could breed just as well with the roses and our money to travel the world learning verbally, finally, we have raised our children already large. But few of us do, and not then, if the young family needs us.
we Should expect in return is that you appreciate our commitment to value, and in the case that we Worry or annoy us, listening? I mean, Yes.
(the Swiss family)
Created: 26.10.2019, 21:07 PM
