“How was school?” “Not well.” This Mini-dialogue between parents and children takes place every evening in countless families. He is a classic – and an indictment on how little you have to say after a long day at school, at work.
About how hard it often is to find common issues of concern to all at the dinner table and join in. But there are those evenings, where parents can move on to the agenda. According to the unfinished homework questions, or the duration of the phone or tablet time to talk.
But now the issue is on the table, no family with school children silently across should go. In the case of an Eleven-year-old, who has taken apparently due to bullying at a Berlin school life. This horrific incident is every day in the newspaper, in social media.
This must not be taken up in every school, in every staff room and each of the parents evening and edited. No one should be ducking the responsibility to address bullying, to address and combat effective.
As in class? What is being said so or in the WhatsApp group? What do you do if you feel bullied, if someone else is being bullied? It will be difficult enough to get these questions answers. Children can be reluctant to take, with regard to supposedly only you.
you can do this with or with your friends, just the Chat you are in your own bubble, you can very reluctantly into the phone watch. Vulnerability and weakness, Yes, even the weakness, not to help others whenever it should be, is difficult. If bullied children and those who are helpless, if classmates are being teased, reveal to their parents is also only the very beginning. What to do, how to help, whom to involve?
How much harder is it to find out, whether a child bullies, possibly by yourself or directly or indirectly involved. Have you ever participated in when other children are excluded, insulted and verbally threatened? The child as a perpetrator or accomplice? Parents acknowledge the need to make your current concept of education into question.
the school is pretty safe never all “good”
you make the first step on a long road to a violence and discrimination in dealing with their own children. And to an empathetic family interaction and with the “Other”. Even more problematic is the fathers and mothers who do not admit the (With the)perpetration of their children. The bullying are not, as such, recognize and bullying allegations on the part of the school or of affected children and parents. But they, too, can be touched by the suicide of Eleven-year-old.
He should now evenings to parents and, where appropriate, in individual interviews will be discussed. Teachers and schools, and the parents of bullying students do not achieve so, you need to consult experts. This, of course, remains the task of the schools. You can’t pull it back, that some students and parents would no longer reach.
the school is pretty safe never anything “good” for the children. So, if you wish it may work in everyday family life, with a focus on the all the. As hard as it is often: We need to talk, now, and just about bullying.
you Have dark thoughts? If it is not good or you keep in mind to take the life of, try to talk with other people about it. This can be friends or relatives. But there are also a variety of services that you can report. The telephone helpline is anonymous, free and available around the clock. The telephone numbers are 0800/111 0 111 and 0800/111 0 222 . Furthermore, there is the telephone counseling, the offer of help-Chats. Also, there is the possibility of an E-Mail consultation. The registration is anonymous and free of charge – on the website. Information, please visit: www.telefonseelsorge.de A topic page, see tagesspiegel.de/themen/mobbing.
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