Christmas vacation reveal the relationship status. The first alarm signal is distancing from your partner. MOSTPHOTOS
divorce applications there is a spike in January and August, i.e. after the holiday season. This is because, that vacation in terms of space is revealed.
– Free, which is traditionally celebrated with the family, it is difficult to escape from work or other obligations, said a doctor of theology and of Better marriages -the association executive director Hanna Ranssi-Matikainen.
He has done his doctoral thesis erokriisissä.
in Order for a relationship to remain flexible and to close, a week would be good to spend ten hours of time together. The number of hours based on studies.
– Time is, therefore, a genuine matter. This much contact time is needed in order to feel the relationship remains warm.
Ten hours does not need to discuss the relationship or make love. Together can decrypt the everyday consultations and share the work to all the things that happened. The shopping trip and playing a sport together will bring them closer. The key is that the couple feel like they’re on the same page.
Don’t make this mistake a little kid during
If a common time to pinch repeatedly abundant, it is the risk of relationship happiness.
– People may think that they have such a good relationship, that yes, it takes a career to invest or infant period of time without input. Real relationship will not last long breaks.
Couples can’t spend time together in the warehouse or, alternatively, to postpone the get-together for weeks, months, or years.
– feeling relationship had to stitch work together for a week of being apart. It affects, for example, in sex and experience on their own relationship.
you are the most important
If a family or couple tends to spend a lot of time with relatives, friends and acquaintances with, the same should be repeated more easily than a vacation, too. Really people need a relationship experience that is the partner of the most important people.
– easily of this is demonstrated by the use of time.
the biggest erokriisi the reason is Ranssi-Matikainen according to the load to our way of life, which is not the time to stop. Christmas, however, gives the opportunity to stasis.
Christmas is worth thinking about together, what we hope the upcoming year. What did we achieve together? What we could do, so we’d have more contact time? In particular, common dreams are large adhesive between spouses. Celebrate victories and dream about the common future.
relationship courses while directing Ranssi-Matikainen has been noticed also, how many couple complains of selfishness. It should strive to get rid of.
– Good times worthwhile to accumulate skills that can handle difficult times.
the Case is initially published in December 2017.
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