An open relationship sounds tempting. And indeed, after many years of marriage, it can be a real enrichment, for some couples it may even be the creative way out of a dead end. But what may sound attractive can go terribly wrong in practice. I know that very well myself, because in 17 years of an open marriage I’ve made quite a few mistakes.

I also know the pitfalls of counseling couples who are looking for a way out of the dilemma of monogamy. Here are a few tips on how the first steps of an opening could ideally look like – and how to avoid beginner’s mistakes.