Since some time I work in a very tradition associated companies. Long length of service is highly appreciated. This is probably the reason why anniversaries are always office parties are committed. Advance is collected. I feel pushed me to give more than I actually want, even for colleagues that I don’t like. For the older gentlemen, it seems to be a matter of honor to give larger sums. How can you escape?

Such gifts serve the Motivation to stay as long in the same operation. To the extent that they contribute to the interests of the employer. Easy to understand, however, that you don’t see quite why they should pay for it from your earnings, if it connects with the receiver neither personal contact nor sympathy. On the other hand, it is not advisable to simply disengage. You don’t want to work with colleagues in good terms and in harmony, even if you are going to own to remain through to retirement in this company.

you Might ask those who do the Collecting, how much bandwidth there is in the contributions. Since you seem to have a number of older colleagues, I’m going to assume that you have not reached your income in the Optimum. Could you mention with a nonchalant remark, when the collection basket was once again in front of your nose and that you remain at the lower limit of the normal contributions. Of course, it will vary here also.

For your own well being it would be wise to have a Budget for such purposes to set up and the content from the outset to be deducted. If the money you give to a colleague, not from the heart, but from the calculus, then it is not a gift, but an investment in a good working environment, you can benefit from. This Budget you should, therefore, have in mind when you negotiate the next Time your wage. A work atmosphere that is not burdened by Stress, for the benefit of the result, the people in charge know. It really is with larger sums of money, you should contact the confidential conversation with the Manager quietly. If something has rocked, can’t it be your task, to turn back to a reasonable level.

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