He tells the story of the worst thing that can happen to a parent. A child, in this case, a 34-year-old daughter, dies suddenly in an accident. Is it possible at all to live on? Will he manage it? Like it?
But he has, how hopeless it felt, lived through a heavy sorgeår and written this book, to comfort all who need.
For those who know the author Lasse Berg and hear his voice, energetic, challenging, hits the man in his book on a familiar, and fundamentally optimistic, the man who, in spite of this tragedy, refuses to let himself be engulfed by the darkness.
and well-written memoir of litteraturforskaren Kerstin Dahlbäck ”Death is something entirely different.” about her daughter, Anna, who died of cancer. So heavy. So bottomless despair.
Books in this genre, sorgeböcker or books about illness and death, rather requires reactions than reviews. It is about life-changing experiences that mean something fundamental to who writes and who reads, but to provide comments and assessments in terms of composition and style feels odd. The critic may change the role.
My response to Lasse Berg’s book is that he, true to habit, is extremely constructive in their grief. He takes the help of people and animals, open with their feelings, dare and bet on to continue to live near his daughter, with her in heart and mind.
in Johannesburg, after the phone call that changed their life, takes his hand ”and say the words that might save my life, my mind, and I will grasp onto in the next time: We shall cope with it. Together.”
Linda was her only child. Lasse has two older daughters.
in The unlikely event that occurred was that Linda had stumbled parents ‘ home in Uppsala, sweden, and supported his left knee in a pot that had ruptured and formed two sharp edges, like knives. They had penetrated into the bone, and cut by two large veins. She had förblött quickly.
In the shock and confusion of notes, yet the two frantic parents human kindness, the flight attendants on the plane home, trifles, a flight attendant gives them a leftover jar of Russian caviar. He remembers his friend’s gestures, comments. Not the least of Linda’s friends. ”To get to meet her friends becomes a way to keep her. Through them, we seek her presence.”
in evolutionsforskning, often with positive. Through the years he has found encouraging research that talks about the crucial value of cooperation, argued that it is this that has made people survived and developed.
He process Linda’s death and the grief after her in a perspective that moves across the millennia and with their own knowledge stored.
Even in his life’s great loss reports he tolkningsmodeller which is converted to action. ”There is a evolutionsbiologisk theory that we are endowed with a predisposition to rather adapt to the peers we have around us than to the parents and their generation”, he notes and understands in such a way that he should seek out to Linda’s friends to be near her.
He tells the story in detail, and alive on the funeral and the time after, and Linda’s personality and life, but he would not be Lasse Berg if we are not in the bargain got a number of educational courses in human survival strategies, how groups acted through history and how different animals adapted under special conditions. He processes the Linda’s death and the grief after her in a perspective that moves across the millennia and with their own knowledge stored. Almost always with a good message to humanity: ”We have in our nature is enshrined an incredible ability to face a common threat from the saber-toothed cats, linking our brains, come up with great solutions and keep it together.”
, where even the daughter loved to live. It is the continent that must host the greatest part of the work of mourning.
It all going in spite of everything on, but never without Ingrid. ”I can handle it because Ingrid is.” This touching book is a kampskrift to try to live despite the fact that the worst has happened. But it is also a wonderful declaration of love to a wife, give courage and strength to survive and live.
Read the interview with Lasse Berg on the grief after her daughter Linda.