The 32-year-old Tuija ended up cheating to escape the heavy everyday life.Video explains why failure scares many.
western red cedar…, 32, and his co-worker’s conversation began harmlessly. Because Tuijankin close to had died unexpectedly, Tuija know how close to someone who lost Teemusta feel. Teemu was Own man, Olli, co-worker. Tuija ended up talking to a cigarette His with, when he took his and Olli’s connection to the children of men to the construction site.
the first conversation after the Thuja spoke His with on the phone a couple of times Ollin phone when Teemu asked Tuijaa phone. Tuija and Olli’s relationship was in trouble. Thuja do shift work, Olli made the long days in their own work, at home, temper tantrums terrible twos-and Olli’s two school-age children from a previous marriage. Olli’s ex-wife seemed to hate Tuijaa and complicate the stepfamily life in every way. Western red cedar arbour and Ollilla wasn’t just time alone.
I Had been wondering the difference. Teemu asked on the phone my own my number and I gave it to him. The first messages were pretty mundane stuff, Tuija says.
About a week after you Tuija and His messages became romantic.
– Teemu know that we had a problem Encounter with him. He started talking in that direction, that if I started a relationship with him. Source coffee source for coffee, he beckoned me. I wonder what pretext to explain Olli, if I went for a coffee.
One night Ollilla had its own iltameno and Thuja agreed to meet His. Olli he told me he was going out with girl friends. Tuija end up having sex Later. An appointment is not missed once.
“Now I think the difference between”
Thuja began to live a double life. He met His 1-3 times a week, in the meantime, when it was supposedly at the gym, or group exercise classes.
I Said to Olli, that I have two or three hours. I had a gym bag, but I went to see Teemua. At home I had to be really uptight.
Thuja spoke His with also, could their relationship become more than just a sexual relationship. Tuija reason, could the life of a childless His with be easier when the pattern do not belong to your man’s children from a previous marriage and petulant ex-wife.
I Think Olli is unlikely to give you a common child, we change with me to His house.
Thuja continue the relationship His with less than two months, until the situation became too rough.
I Was sick, and I couldn’t stand Olli in my eyes. I took our kids to the grandparents for the treatment without telling Olli and I left His house. We came from an altercation with His with the. I said to him that I don’t have to like listen and go sit in the car. I was thinking in the car for half an hour, I go back inside His creative or go home.
Tuija sent in the car while sitting on the Olli message: “Now I think you get the difference. This you won’t be able to forgive”. Olli replied, that nothing so bad could be that the couple would be able to find out and ask Tuijaa to drive home. Tuija made solutions and start the car.
MOSTPHOTOS”Is it Teemu?”
– at Home Olli asked immediately if I have someone else and whether it’s Teemu. He had guessed it himself. Work Teemu questions I hear all the time about me and I was so cranky at home. The next day at work, Olli didn’t talk to Teemu nothing all day. The day after Teemu called me and wondered, that Olli had spoken to him at work. I guess now that she knows about us, I replied.
Teemu tried to call Olli and warm up between him, but it didn’t work. Tuija Teemu not been calling for a long time after Thuja announced that the relationship is over.
When he switched jobs a little while ago, he tried calling and begging me back.
Tuija experience for yourself the great need for commentary Olli’s own spending for a long time after it was cheated.
– Olli didn’t want to start to read my messages or anything like that. I began, however, self-report their own spending. I told him that I go right to the gym, or girl friends out and send photos on the spot.
the Relationship began to recover
the couple had spoken to you Tuija and His relationship, just the other night, when Tuija tell Olli it all. After the subject was left for weeks, until Olli told me that they had contacted a couple of therapy was, in order to Tuija and Olli could talk about cheating, even with the therapist.
– visits were bland. Now we will go to Encounter with him better.
What Tuija drove to betray?
– Olli’s very difficult ex-wife, a common lack of time, Olli’s wild children, who also told me to bugger off me and common very difficult terrible twos. Feel that life the bike home, children and work around them. I missed it, that someone is ignoring me Savoybetting and cares about me. I felt like I was Olli self-evident.
Now, when the infidelity crisis is over, Tuijasta feel, that it cured his and Olli’s relationship.
– Previous ponder, would life easier for men. I noticed that the grass in not greener on the other side. Olli noticed that for me it is exporting outside the home. Today the kids are at least once a month for the weekend grandparents, when we have a two-on-one time Encounter with him.
Think carefully about what you can lose
the Thuja does not believe that would end up cheating again.
to Learn at once. Double-life was hell when I watch it, what men talk about working with each other. I could have lost everything. The relationship really wasn’t worth it.
the Other, that failure attracts, Tuija wants to say that acts is worth thinking about very carefully.
– will life partners by the exchange of the real?
western red cedar…, Olli and Teemu’s names have been changed to protect privacy. The story is originally published in February 2018.
EMMELINE OKSANEN emmi.oksanen@iltalehti.fi
