Fell you in to the company christmas party and have been the cannon for it? So there is a high probability that your boyfriend will avenge itself by being unfaithful.
Researchers have shown that there are certain personality traits, as the most unfaithful in any degree have in common, but nothing is more decisive in order to be unfaithful than this:
That the past itself has been exposed for adultery, according to new research.
So, in addition to that one more often has a more creepy and elusive tilknytningsstil and is a bit more narcissistic landscaped, then there is nothing so crucial to cracking at the side of, as if the boyfriend has done it first.
You may have many reasons to be unfaithful, and boredom in the bed and the lack of emotional cohesion are some of them. But the new study points meaning that hævnutroskab is high on the list.
Sex & cohabitation – 2. may. 2018 – at. 21:56 Started your relationship in this way, there is trouble ahead
You feel that your partner has failed (and it does in the definitions not only to be infidelity), so you punish your girlfriend by having sex with someone else.
the Penalty is to get your partner to like on the way, which is similar to the humiliation and the pain he has caused you. He or she must, in other words, the taste of his own medicine.
Vengeance, as a just punishment for her infidelity can for a short while feels sweet and give the avenger a sense of self-respect.
But revenge just has a tendency to escalate, so that peace and reconciliation and forgiveness will be harder to achieve.
Utroskabshævndramaet can unfold thus, in parterapeuten, where Per and Lise seeking help. Lise was the primary culprit, as she had been unfaithful first. She felt, however, entitled to it, because joe no longer banged her.
And per felt, in its turn entitled to be unfaithful as a punishment opposite Lise. He believed that he had been a good husband, and that Lisa was complicit in their problems in bed.
Both believed, therefore, that the partner’s infidelity was unjustified, but in order to move forward and reconciled, they must both forgive each other.
A vicious circle of self-justifying vengeful digression will certainly not do anything good for the relationship and the underlying problems in bed.
It, however, you need to do to to be more interested in partners /sexual) pleasure instead of focusing on getting each other to suffer,
Revenge is deep within us. But revenge has a price. Which can be, to a better world does not feel fair for the punished, and then avenges one back to equalize. And then we have the vicious circle.
So what do the pair, where one has been taken in adultery? According to the researcher behind the mentioned study is the most appropriate approach to this:
The unfaithful may expect to be put in a corner for a time, partly as punishment, partly to the partner can heal the wounds which she has inflicted.
If the unfaithful sincerely repent and truly want the relationship and the girlfriend, he will accept this punishment – but at a time he or she is forgiven and will be shut out of the skammeskrogeb, if the relationship should move forward
If you are experiencing infidelity or any other severe failure in the relationship, you must allow yourself to be angry and upset. You have been injured and have a right to these feelings and the right to take the time it takes to heal.
express your feelings with dignity, then you should not ‘sink down’ on your partner’s level and argue you tooth for a tooth, or commit verbal overbreb. Express your anger in a controlled and dignified way. Speak slowly, calmly and firmly. It will make bigger impression on your girlfriend and not escalate the conflict,
Set of partners in a corner, until he has earned your trust and love. Your partner has no claim to a quick forgiveness and must to accept that your wounds the wound taken time to heal. But the set price on my bf’s good behavior, when he/she exhibits patience and understanding for your pain.
Sex & cohabitation – 11. nov. 2016 – pm. 22:27 How will you feel when you experience infidelity
you Can move on after infidelity? It considers the british sex therapist Tracey Cox, who this lists evidence that must try to forgive:
this is The first time. If your sweetheart claims that it is the first time, and you certainly do not doubt that that is true, it is a good idea to forgive and be in relationship. You have full confidence that the affair is over, and that something similar does not happen again. However, it must also be mentioned, that happens sidespringet early in the relationship, there is a greater risk that the relationship does not last.
It feels right. Worthy of you and your children a common future with your cheating partner? Do you feel that he deserves you, and that he/she has just done something terribly stupid, then it’s probably a good idea to forgive and be in relationship. But the forgiveness must be genuine, for if you continue to punish your partner, don’t you come on.
You understand him/her. Might have had In it is difficult in a period of time, maybe went your partner through a tough time when mom or dad died or another traumatic event. Maybe you would react the same way if it happened to you. It does not excuse infidelity, but if you can understand the background, it can be a road to forgiveness. Credible. Have your partner until now generally been trustworthy and responsible, it is a good sign. Trust you are still on, that he is a good man who will you the best, it is sensible to give a second chance. the Anger. Your partner shows genuine remorse, has it just as badly as you and will do virtually anything to make it good again. And it can be to get couples ‘ counselling. For it can be incredibly rewarding to speak out about it and be in a safe and secure space. If he refuses, it may be a sign that there are other digressions that may come for a day – or that her boyfriend just don’t care. It is also important that you look at, what things in the relationship that needs to be tightened up.
