“Our society nurtures violence against women”

“Debater: the Man can do almost anything – for the woman the reverse is true.”

“This is an opinion piece. It is the writer who stands for the views that are put forward in the text, not Against.”

“the DEBATE. Right now boils Sweden of anger and determination in the wake of the documentary on Josefin Nilsson. Requirements on a doomed förövares resignation and the many dedicated comments in social media. “

“What we wonder is how the power and determination that carries so many now to keep the right to change.”

“One of the most strongly conveyed the feelings in the documentary about the Josefin Nilsson is her loneliness. The lack of support, lack of redress, lack of consequences for the man who had subjected her to violence, threats and humiliation.”

“In our work to support women and children who are victims of men’s violence is the encounter with the woman is central. It is through to see and confirm her experiences, to support without having to determine how she should act and not lay the blame on her, that our women’s shelters and young work over the 35 years Roks have been. “

“a Lot of women which we meet with may after having been on a date move on in their lives. We are, therefore, many who feel a woman or a (grown-up) children who have been living on a date without us knowing it, and without that it is possible to see it on them.”

“Other women, like Josephine, will be marked by the man’s violence for life. Physical injuries or psychological scars that do not heal. This is reinforced in addition to the development of their perpetrators often go in the opposite direction. It goes upwards. “

“Josefin Nilsson was forced to experience how the man who hurt her was asked in a tv and by the newspapers about his time as ”bad boy”. The assignments and the estimate continued to come. “

“It is a form of courage beyond from the human society who feeds and nurtures violence. It is also a form of limitlessness that goes again when we create views and spaces around what it should mean to be a man and be a woman. “

“When the first blows fall in a relationship the man has often long since reduced and pressed down on the woman. She, on the otherhand goes from the first shock, to request from the man responsible for his kind, that, when repeated over time, to move the violence away from him – he was tired, he had a boring childhood. “

“Another step in the process is that she sees herself as part of the violence he exercises. Not the whole part, but the dream is that he by to see her and her desire for change and her love for him will change. He will be the man she wishes he was.”

“this is mean we are a hub of how we create gender in today’s society: the Man can do almost anything, and continue to have hope standing around to it staying a nice guy inside. For the woman the reverse is true; She is the hooker, the pussy, yes grisfarmarfittan – what she does.”

“Shall we stop men’s violence against women, it is necessary to have an understanding of and a vocabulary for these processes. When boys and men committing acts of violence against girls and women it is something other than ”violence in close relationship.” “

“It is a dance with heavy notions of gender, whose endpoint may well be death. Terms we are not these processes exclude women and girls with the shame society and culture put on them. “

“It is therefore with concern Roks look at how a neutral language preparing and shaping the policy in the field of men’s violence against women. “

“On the Roks shelters meet our jourkvinnor and jourtjejer our applicant with the knowledge of violence mechanisms and processes. We know that it is never your fault that he beats you. We know that it is so incredibly easy to feel that way – and that hope for change can live for so many years. “

“To a women’s shelter or girls’ refuge, you can turn to, if you are wondering if the jump is worth it, or if you just want to talk about your relationship. Just as there is a process in violence, it may be a process to get out of it. “

“nJenny Westerstrand, chairman of Roks, The national organisation for women’s shelters and young in Sweden”

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