I’m Graubünden is a classic Teenager in the Canton. I say each Person Grüezi, unless I’m in Stress. It seems to me, as if older people no Grüezi tell me back often. My opinion currently is that older people are ruder than young people. However, there are also a lot of unfriendly teenagers. Could it be that the older people listen to my “Grüezi”? Or you get old simply rude? G. F.
Dear Mr F.
The rudeness of the young, respectively. the Old, or whoever is a classic controversy theme. For each of These effective anecdotes, but hardly – as we say – “robust” sociological data base. Friendliness can hardly be measured, you is always a “perceived” Size.
don’t Be disappointed so if I can give you no clear answer to your question, but you are only a few Considerations may be present, which puts into perspective your feeling to live in a hostile Old (young, women, children, men…) – populated world, perhaps.
If you around, greets you as you may not be sure whether you will also be greeted.
I, Too, am an avid Grüezi-Sayers, if only because my memory due to the progressive face blindness patchy pronounced. So I greet cheerfully in front of me, in the hope of avoiding the fact that I go on people I know and who know me, grusslos. The principle is: better ten times too much than once too little.
When you around, greets you as you may not be sure whether you will also be greeted; it is otherwise just in a bad mood, in the light of the perceived and sometimes actual rudeness of the other.
Many people are not unfriendly, but often shy and uncertain in social contact or distracted because you have other things in mind. I am amazed how often you with people that you have held for surly and dismissive (perhaps only because it is just in a bad mood), a nice Small Talk can have if you ask them about something or anything and his help (or the square in the Tram).
often the unfriendliness or rudeness of the other exists only in the imagination. They are soft quickly in the specific contact. A Sunny disposition does not make the world necessarily better, but it leaves you in a friendlier light.
The psychoanalyst Peter Schneider answered every Wednesday questions in the philosophy of everyday life. Send us your questions to gesellschaft@tagesanzeiger.ch
(editing Tamedia)
Created: 10.01.2019, 16:36 PM
