Actually, it is a small miracle, if people in long term relationships still have an active and good sex life, for sexdræberne stand in a queue at the bed:
Stress, illness, depression, work, children, social media, menopause, boredom…
And it is not only by your bed, the queue a long: A study from the BBC shows that the british also suffer:
45 percent of the more than 2000 representative selected participants reported stress as a factor that negatively affects sexual arousal. This is followed by physical and mental illness, with 32 and 26 percent, while children and the work of destroying the sexual for 20 and 18 percent:
in General are only half satisfied with the sexual arousal. Sexterapeuten Ellen Brady has a bid on what you can do if you are dissatisfied with the sexual:
Disallow sex. On a temporary basis.
– For what In the end has done sexually, it’s gone wrong, so what you should do is to wipe it out and start over and find the emotional cohesion and intimacy again.
– Here there can, however, be some gender differences, with women often want to focus on emotional intimacy and the kisses and caresses, while men don’t focus on those things and instead gives priority to sex. However, it is my experience that men with the time recognizing that they also need the emotional cohesion. Which then leads to sex, because it just forms the basis of that sex can happen, ” says Brady.
Sexperterne – 18. jan. 2016 – pm. 18:53 How to avoid to be bored in bed
We took hold of the Danish sexologist and therapist Signe V. Bentzen, to hear her take on what kills the danes ‘ sexual desire:
– People lose the desire to have sex for many reasons. Scarcity of time and lack of profits are the most widely used. Them know many families with children or people who otherwise are hard-pressed over a longer period, e.g. due to large workloads or illness in the family.
– But one of the biggest culprits in my book is actually boredom. People møgkeder. It is there basically nothing to say to; on the other, we are such built that our body loves routines and at the slightest inattention resort to them.
– on the one hand is very bad at communicating about what we want from each other. The longer we are silent, the harder it seems to break the silence and say ‘no I’m not actually ready for penetration, just because I’m wet.’
– Or we dream us to go to something else; perhaps one that either takes us with the force and juice, or one, who keeps eye contact and seems interested in reaching climate as soon as possible, ” says Bentzen.
the Pattern may, however, be reversed, considers sex therapist:
– But it requires courage and patience. not at least with themselves. How good are you at noticing your own desires, you can put the words on them, and are you willing to listen to what your partner put the words and together try to get it to happen?
– That the sexual door is definitely not a necessity in a long-term relationship, but there will naturally be periods when there is low tide. You just need to be aware that there must be an extra effort, if you have to get up on the horse again e.g. after a birth or after a longer time of stress.
A few hours with a therapist is often a good investment in such cases, considers Bentzen:
– namely, It can be extremely vulnerable to talk about. Yes actually avoid many to talk about, because it often goes in a deadlock by one or both feel that they are not enough or simply not manage to the brand itself. Both parts can a therapist help with.
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