“So responding to you the one who hurt yourself”
“Be angry, try to understand or simply avoid the topic – how responds to the best, the one who hurt yourself physically?”
“Avoid overreacting, is Jonas Bjärehed, one of two psychologists who have written a manual.”
“– We say instead: Listen!”
“To meet someone who suffered from self-destructive behaviour can be both difficult and scary. Some health professionals feel that they lack the right skills. Parents can feel both fear and great feelings of inadequacy, and other adults may not know even how they should behave in order to ”
“the Idea for the handbook ”self-injury: Detecting, understanding and treating” was born in connection with that Jonas Bjärehed and his co-author Johan Bjureberg participated in a national project wanted to spread knowledge about self-destructive behaviour in the public sector, as the care and pupil welfare.”
“Questions about the phenomenon were many and came from all directions – from medical care, but also sports coaches, and relatives. And there is a lot to think about in a meeting with a person who has self-destructive behaviour, ” says Jonas Bjärehed, psychologist and lecturer in psychology at Lund university.”
” One thing that is not great is to get carried away with the emotionally – to be overly nurturing, feel sorry for and want to nurture or to get angry and make demands, he advises and explains:” the
“– The one who hurt himself doing it linked to their emotions. You have a hard time with it and don’t need more feelings based.”
“Exactly how many people suffer from self-destructive behaviour in Sweden today is difficult to know. According to Jonas Bjärehed there are, however, several Swedish studies indicate that between 20 and 30 per cent of young people have experience of it here.”
“some think perhaps directly at young people who cut themselves, but a self-destructive behaviour can manifest itself in several ways,” says Jonas Bjärehed.”
“– We see very many variants. You can hit themselves, burn themselves with cigarettes, tear it up or do so that the wounds it inflicted on itself does not heal, it’s very common.”
“TT: Why do you do it?”
“– The one bit about dealing with difficult emotions, ” says Jonas Bjärehed and continue.”
” The second piece, which as a psychologist and hear that most have experience of, is that it becomes something that is seen in relation to others. A way to show that you feel bad.”
“the Authors’ best advice to those who find themselves in the victim’s environment is all about creating confidence and simply be there as an adult.”
” Listen, and was there as a support, with the aim to try to help the person proceed to the health care professional.”
“• In emergency situations, contact the psychiatric emergency room or call 112.”
“• who want guidance about where to seek care can call 1177.”
“• There are also guides and hotlines that can call to anonymously:”
“• the Helpline to speak anonymously with trained psychologists, social workers and nurses. Telephone: 0771-220060.”
“• the Association Shedo – an organization working to spread knowledge and give support to the band otherwise affected by eating disorders and självskadebeteenden. Via Shedos website to find other Självskadechatten and jourmail.”
“• helplines : For those who want to speak with someone anonymously in the late evenings and nights. Telephone: 08-7021680.”
“• Anhöriglinjen for loved ones who need support. Telephone: 0200-239500.”
“• Föräldralinjen for the parent who worries that the child is in distress. Telephone: 020-852000.”
“• Mind självmordslinjen the Association of the Mind works to help the person who has thoughts of taking his own life. The phone line and the chat is open at 6 to 24 hours, all days of the week. Telephone: 90101”
