She is sitting with her newborn daughter on the arm, as the e-Box-the message ticks in.
Faderskabserklæringen.
There is only a single box, she has the option to fill in: ‘Unknown father/father will not vedkendes paternity’, is standing there.
– None of the parts could be further from the truth, says the 40-year-old Louise Maagaard to Ekstra Bladet.
19. January 2020 comes little Elvira to the world. She is the little sister of six-year-old Marius, and the daughter of Louise Maagaard and Henrik Sandberg.
Exactly a half years before she is born, dies, her father, Henry, suddenly.
– At the time I was pregnant in 12. week, and the rest of the pregnancy was very hard. A rollercoaster ride of all the head and edges.
– I could not put me in the fetal position for the closed curtains and hoot throughout the day. There was a little boy, who was still up, were in kindergarten and have greased packed lunches. His life was supposed to continue, at the same time he should be able to talk with me about his loss, tells nordjyden Louise, who is trained as a ceramic designer.
Louise, Marius, and Henry. Henry was a good father. He loved to be. And Marius miss him – especially to build Lego, for that I am apparently not very good at, Louise says and laughs. Private.
While Louise is struggling through the grief and the rest of her pregnancy, gives it not a thought, that there should ever be anyone who would question whether Henry was the father of the little girl in her stomach.
– There are no other options. Both of our children are made at the fertility clinic in the test tube. So all the evidence of how, when, and whom is like not to discuss, she says.
Since the new andengangsmoder receive faderskabserklæringen in his e-Box and may find that Henry’s name does not fit in any box, she will call Familieretshuset.
I got hold of one who said that I should just write under the. There was not really any choice. Unless I would be in court and run a paternity case. She stressed that if I did not sign, she would note that I opposed cooperation, and thus send it forward in the legal system.
I felt myself totally stepped on, and I had a clear sense that she thought that I was touchy, Louise, who subsequently contacts a familieadvokat, who advises her to do the same, because ’the system is simply too heavy and square to oppose’, as the lawyer says.
– We had been to graviditetsscanning, and we had seen hjerteblink and heard the heart sound. Henrik was with, and it has the clinic also sent documentation for, Louise says to Ekstra Bladet. Photo: René Schütze.
as a Result, Louise closes her eyes, takes a deep breath and ticked the box ‘unknown father’.
I swallowed a huge camel and had a really bad conscience opposite Henry.
– It ran me cold down my spine as I sat there and had to fill in that stuff. We have lived together for ten years as a married couple – we were just not married. We had been it, it was all gone automatically.
– But in fact, it would have been o.k., if they could write a note at the side of the box, which said that the father was deceased. But it could evidently not be done.
Louise Maagaard and Henrik Sandberg were lovers for more than ten years, but never married. – This is why I must go through it here. It is grotesque, that if we had had a marriage certificate, so had Henry the automatically been Elvira’s father, says Louise. Private.
After Louise has written under, she hears nothing. She ends up with even contacting Familieretshuset, where the matter now lies, and here she gets to know that the case is forwarded to court in Aalborg.
– I tried to tell you that I have full proof that Henrik is the father of the child. Everything in the journal from the clinic – when I was inseminated, when I was pregnant, when we heard the heart sound, etc. The clinic was cute and helped us a lot. They wrote a lot of papers, which I sent to Familieretshuset, but they still have not wanted to say good for it.
Little Elvira will be baptized on Sunday 14. June. Louise, hope has all the time been, there came a clarification before then, so his daughter – just like its big brother can carry His surname. Photo: René Schütze.
In the last week had Louise appear in court in Aalborg, and give its explanation.
– So I had to sit there and say if I had been with anyone other than Henry. I think it is so provocative. One would never ask a married woman about. But Henrik and I were never married, even though we were together for more than 10 years.
He was a wedding photographer. Of course, we had to just have been married, but Henrik had a kind of industrial injury and would have the big package with the castle, where I was to a small garden party, Louise says with a contagious laughter.
– The need to ensure the child’s right to a father and the child’s legal certainty. Is it not o.k., that protects children on the way?
– in General, certainly. But all the documentation is here just. I think that it is right to højrebenet.
– So on the way I can not understand it. There are used as many man-hours in the system on it here, there is time spent in the crowded courtrooms, and it is society’s money is being spent on it. It is in my eyes quite a hole in the head.
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the Clinic has helped Louise Maagaard much in faderskabssagen. But the documentation made no difference to the Municipality or Familieretshuset.
Comment from Familieretshuset
– Familieretshuset able to take decisions on parentage, but complex legal cases is sent as the starting point for a decision in court.
– It is currently the practice, to cases where the danger is death, passed on to family law, says Søren Aakjær Gam, who is head of the unit for faderskabsområdet in Familieretshuset, in an email to Ekstra Bladet.
– We have – fortunately – very few of this type of cases. We will see if we can change this practice f.ex. in cases where it is possible on another way to prove who is the danger, stand on it in the mail.
It has not been possible for us to ask questions to anyone in the Familieretshuset, so the answer, as Søren Aakjær Gam comes with, is based on an assumption on what we might like to would have the answers to.
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on Wednesday of this week came the decision of the court of final: Henrik Sandberg is the father of the little girl. And it’s going to stand on faderskabserklæringen.
– It is lovely. I am very relieved also, that the decision came now. For we hold the christening on Sunday.
My greatest wish has been that Elvira could get his last name – just like Marius. It can she now.
Henry’s death: We could see that it was mad
19. June 2019 waking the 51-year-old photographer Henrik Sandberg up with nausea. He and Louise joker that he has sympathy-pregnancy-nausea. At the time, Louise Maagaard pregnant in 12. week with their second child.
– But it is not worse, than the day went on, and in the afternoon I asked if he felt better, to which he replied that he could still feel it – but it was actually o.k. So I took our son Marius with out a ride and act a little.
It will not be long before Henry is calling for Louise. He asks if she will not come home. He feels ‘completely warped in the head’, he gets formulated.
I actually had a hard time understanding what he said. So I got my mother home with me for safety’s sake. I remember that we rushed. And when we stepped in the door, we could immediately see that it was completely mad.
Grandmother to take Marius with him, while Louise calling for an ambulance.
– When the ambulance came, he was no longer contactable. He was taken to the hospital and came directly in the scanner.
– The first scan showed that he had scored a bleeding in the brain, and there was so much blood, that they could not operate him.
the Doctors didn’t think he would survive the first day. So I called after my mother and Marius, who came in to say goodbye to his father. Henrik ended, however, remain in intensive care for six days before he died.
– How have In it today?
– It has been a very hard year, I must admit.
– I think it is much to have boxes with the system about who is the father of my daughter, when it can only be Henry.
– How has He had it?
– He has it good. He misses his father, and he has many memories. But it is very concrete when he misses. For example, the miss he, that Henrik can build Lego with him, because he thinks that I’m so bad at it.
– I have made much of, that there was something that had to be packed away for Marius. So he has been with you all the way in the process. He was a funeral and have selected the headstone and the grave, and we generally talk much about Henrik and grief.
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