Actually, have today started their winter holidays, the fifth-grader has not experienced it. Because she was being bullied in elementary school, apparently solid, is made by the eleven-year-old a few days ago, a suicide attempt. She died later in the hospital.
For your parents is broken a world together, their classmates and their families are shocked and stunned, the class teacher called in sick. In the grief of the parents ‘ representatives also have a lot of anger and outrage mixed in the meantime, however. “For more than a year, there are massive cases of Bullying at the school,” says one father: “It was mentioned time and again the teachers and the school management, the parents Council, but also of mothers and fathers whose children were affected. But you have dismissed all of the cases of simply – according to the Motto, don’t be all so tragic, or, the bullied kids are not exactly angels.“
Only three weeks ago had studied the total parental representation intensively with the topic of violence and bullying, told the father: “Furthermore, the competent office of education head is in the know. It should not only be given to bullying between children, but also violence of a teacher against the students. But nothing is going to happen.“ According to his information the parents of the girl without had stated a short time before, once again, to the verbal and physical attacks from a few classmates to your daughter – that there have been consequences by the school administration.
“The parents are going through the worst thing you can imagine”, says Carsten Stahl. He has been working for years as an Anti-bullying Trainer – not only in Berlin schools. Because he himself was the victim and the offender, it is for the students to be both credible and, due to its starring role in the television series “private detective” and the Reality Show “steel:tough on bullying”.
it was Only last September he had directed, at the invitation of the former Deputy and member of the Committee on internal Affairs Thorsten Barren (SPD) in the vicinity of the said primary school Anti-bullying event. “As steel, the question was asked, how many of the approximately 150 students have been bullied so much that they thought of suicide, at least 25,” said Barren: “This has shocked me very much. Because the teachers have and school leaders to sit up and take notice. But, unfortunately, none of them was present.“
“bullying should be taken from the policy a lot more seriously”
The topic of bullying in schools everywhere displaced in Germany, says Thorsten Barren: “And when, as here, in Berlin, something Bad was gonna happen, always the same mechanisms: It is appeased, silent, or even the victim to the offender. The topic of bullying should be from the policy much, much more serious.“
Carsten Stahl also experienced, that people are intimidated. You should go to the press. And because the media don’t report typically on suicides, the Public is often none of that. “But how to change something, if the Problem is more taboo?”, asks steel.
He learns in the meantime, almost everything, because he by his campaign and his nationwide performances have reached so many people. “And I don’t think of it. I was, since I am against bullying, been to six funerals,“ he says. “I weep for all these children. This Berlin girl, the boy, who crashed last year from the window of a vocational school in Burg, Saxony-Anhalt, even the gunman from Munich 2016 is said to have been a victim of harassment. These are preventable tragedies. And not individual cases. According to my calculations, every second day is dying in Germany, a child due to bullying.“
psychologists supervise the classmates
Such Numbers can, however, be difficult to prove because the issue is still shame attached to them. Who wants to be a victim? In the case of suicides, it is also often difficult to clearly as a result of bullying is to be classified.
In the case of the Eleven year running, according to the Berlin police, as always in such cases a death investigation. “The colleagues from the criminal investigation Department are very carefully,” says a spokeswoman. To further Show due to Violence to the said school to meet at the earliest the beginning of next week to testify.
A spokeswoman for the Senate administration for education confirmed that the school had informed about the death of Eleven-year-old. Violence and crisis psychologists had been turned on to serve to classmates.
“You want to be, that is quickly forgotten”
the school was to speak in spite of many Attempts no one for the daily mirror. According to the education administration, the school wants to offer appropriate ways of mourning and remembrance after the holidays.
That candles and flowers to the dead eleven-year-old was recalled, were removed from the school, could not confirm the spokesperson. Carsten Stahl has experienced this but often. “You want to be, that is quickly forgotten,” he says: “no one will think about the faults of the school system and the controller. But looking away doesn’t help and won’t forget. Because as long as nothing changes, it will happen again and again.“
assistance
you Have dark thoughts? If it is not good or you keep in mind to take the life of, try to talk with other people about it. This can be friends or relatives. But there are also a variety of services that you can report.
The telephone helpline is anonymous, free and available around the clock. The telephone numbers are 0800/111 0 111 and 0800/111 0 222 .
Furthermore, there is the telephone counseling, the offer of help-Chats. Also, there is the possibility of an E-Mail consultation. The registration is anonymous and free of charge – on the website. Information, please visit: www.telefonseelsorge.de
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