“They have chosen to forgive”
“Kjells and Jane’s daughter Nathalie was 16 years old when she was murdered.”
“Can you forgive the one who murdered, even beloved children?”
“For Kjell and Jane Rönnqvist, who lost his 16-year-old daughter Nathalie, the answer is undoubtedly yes.”
“– We do not forgive the deeds but the persons. It, we have chosen to do to themselves to feel good, Jane says Rönnqvist.”
“It is almost exactly five years since that Saturday evening when Kjell and Jane Rönnqvists daughter Nathalie disappeared after a party.”
“Another few days later found her body buried then expojkvännen and a friend of his pointed out the place.”
“Nathalies parents felt expojkvännen well, he was often at home with them, and he and Nathalie were engaged.”
“Even though the statistics clearly show that most violent crime is committed by any near kin was thought of expojkvännen could have something of her disappearance to do the unthinkable.”
“Hard work after the trial.”
“In the initial interrogation, he denied, but when his jämnårige friend broke down and told me he went on to point out the place where Nathalie has been buried.”
“– First reaction was total shock and it was probably in around six months. We knew him, it was so unreal, ” says Jane.”
“the pre-trial Investigation, the indictment, the trial and the judgment was severe trials for Nathalies parents and her older brother Pierre.”
“Afterwards made it, if possible, even more evil.”
“– When the formal is done, it will really pesky. Sometimes could not get out of bed and it is important to point out that you must have such days, too, ” says Jane.”
“But despite the fact that they felt destroyed by the sadness and sometimes just cried saw neighbors, friends and family something else.”
“– They have said that they thought we were so strong during the difficult time but we felt not at all so, ” says Kjell.”
“Early on in the grieving process, despite all the hard feelings, chose the pair somewhere out a strategy for its further life: to try to feel good.”
“They picked the best buys from various books and lectures on mental development.”
“– We decided that nothing was better to hate and feel bad, ” says Jane.”
“Forgiveness emerged”
“In connection with it began to a sense of reconciliation to emerge. They felt no hatred and no rico prefers an against expojkvännen that was so brutally taken the life of their daughter.”
“– We can not say that we immediately thought in terms of forgiveness and we do not know exactly when the tanks came, they grew enough gradually. Partly it’s about how we as a people even before Nathalie was murdered, ” says Jane.”
“Kjell has for many years practised the martial art of jujutsu. In connection with the demonstrations is sometimes included samurai swords in the equipment.”
“– I used to think that if someone would touch my kids, I would chase them with swords. But when it actually happened I felt not at all so. For us is revenge and retaliation action movie, not our reality, ” says Kjell.”
“the Pair believe that a part of their thoughts come from their philosophy of life.”
“They call themselves not religious, but spiritual.”
” It means that we have a conviction that there is something more and that life continues in some form after death. You think so it might be easier to tackle such an event, ” says Kjell.”
“Got a letter from prison”
“Their forgiveness has not only been mental, but also physical approach. Already half a year after the murder, called Jane up expojkvännens mother.”
“– I understood what she went through and just wanted to hug her, ” says Jane.”
“One day a letter came from expojkvännens friend, which he wrote in prison. He had been sentenced to a shorter prison sentence for the protection of the criminal and crimes against griftefriden.”
“In the letter he told me of his life and wrote that he regretted what he had done.”
” We knew first, not how we would do. We would reply to the letter? After a time we sent a reply where we talked about how we did it and greeted from all three of us, ” says Jane.”
“After that my friend served his sentence he found by coincidence together with Jane and Kjell at the bus station in Sundsvall. It turned out that they would with the same bus to Stockholm.”
“– Some of Nathalies friends stood at the same bus stop and they were jättestressade when they saw that he was standing there. Finally I took the plunge and went up and hugged him, ” says Jane.”
“– He asked how we did it and it felt honest, ” says Kjell.”
“Expojkvännen have not had any contact with Nathalies parents. During the trial he concealed his face and for all.”
” We have forgiven him but not what he has done. But if he would contact us we would absolutely like to talk with him.”
“They believe that all can learn to forgive. And that all can be forgiven.”
“– It can not be worse than what we have been through so I’m convinced just to get the insight.”
“– Forgiveness is all about my thoughts. The opposite of hate, bitterness and anger take a lot of energy and do not make you feel better. The document is made whether you hate it or not, ” says Jane.”
“the Media’s reporting on killed the babies in Arboga, sweden and Engla who lost their lives in the idyllic Stjärnsund, river up difficult memories.”
” I feel horrible. The process is the same for everyone so when we see the parents we know all too well what they are going through, ” says Jane.”
“the Grief after Nathalie has changed with the times.”
” today it is a big loss. When you see girls of her age, you might wonder how she would have looked like in the day and what she would have been involved with, ” says Kjell.”
“go ahead.”
“After the murder of Nathalie established a fund to honor her memory. Every year at Nathalies birthday on the 4 december will be awarded the scholarship out to the people who seem against violence and drugs.”
“the Fund has helped us to move forward in the joy of the characters,” says Jane.”
“To the fifth anniversary of her death on september 6, was decked out her grave by loving hands. Fjärilslavendeln was changed to a white chrysanthemums, surrounded by the white angels.”
“– Even if we have been about the worst thing that can happen and we miss her every day, so it is important to go further in life. Otherwise it will be just bitter and sick. Today, we rejoice in the small things, and have really learned to live in the present, ” says Jane.”
“was Sentenced to 8.5 years in prison”
“● 6 september 2003, the murdered 16-year-old Nathalie Rönnqvist in connection with a party. Short before the party had Nathalie made up with her 19-year-old boyfriend. He took Nathalie in the party and in a wooded area near strangled her, he Nathalie with his belt and stabbed her 20 times.”
“● After the murder, searched the 19-year-old up a friend and got help to dig down Nathalies body in the Hornslandet outside of Hudiksvall. Expojkvännen was sentenced to 8.5 years in prison for murder, crimes against griftefriden and doping offenses because he abused anabolic steroids. The friend was sentenced to 1.5 years in prison for grossly protective of the criminal and crimes against griftefriden.”
“the Fund honors Nathalies memory”
“● Nathaliefonden was started the same year as Nathalie was murdered in honor of her memory. The scholarship should go to someone who works preventive against violence and drugs. If you want to put in a contribution of Nathalies memorial foundation is it good number 152582-3.”
“Inspired both the film and the music”
“● in Spring 2008, the documentary film ”Nathalie – a film about forgiveness” premiere. The film was made by Stefan Frankel then he read about the Kjell and Jane Rönnqvists förlåtelsebudskap.”
“● Singer Jill Johnsson was affected by the news around Nathalies disappearance and wrote the song ”Nathalie”. “
